“They’ve
been there 250 years since 1776. The Dene and the Cree fought over the
location. Then the French came along … and on & on,” says my wife in a
WhatsApp family chat, referring to Ile-a-la-Crosse, after a visit to the
birthplace of our daughter. Then a telling reply from Sheila, our son’s
mother-in-law, “Oh Verna, it does go on and on. I believe we might all meet up
again after this life. In the meantime, we have beautiful memories. Love you
all.”
This little
family exchange has suddenly become meaningful to me, after yet another
significant gathering for Verna and I. Not only good digital chats like this available across the kilometers these days, but also this past weekend we met with some 50 persons, a sizable
portion of our 1966 – 68 Bible School years. Organized by a few diligent
fellow-retirees, it was amazing. Long and somewhat drawn-out by repetitious
details, those five hours will now be a historic moment even as most of us will
likely be dispatched to that next chapter in the near future. “On and on” is a significant comment on this the morning after, as I sit here with my laptop in an upstairs
bedroom which I shared with my brother in the farmhouse which sent us off on
the adventures of our lifetime(s).
It’s a rainy morning, wonderful rain ever essential on the prairies, except it’s harvest time, and a little dry weather (drejh wada) would be helpful right about now! Coming home to our original farmyard (quick trip to nearby town for a morning coffee – bad habit yes) I see some things exactly as they were, caragana hedge between the highway and the garden, pastureland out beyond the barn, and cows standing in faithful discomfort. Everything still in place as per my memories. And then it’s all different. Turning into the yard, there are signs, Sunnyside Dairy, even on a rainy Monday morning already a few customers to pick up their exquisite pasteurized-but-not-homogenized high quality milk! It’s a high-end product on the market, especially available for those who can afford it and willing to make the trip from the nearby city. This sentimental yard is now a business place, complete with employees and all that's involved with complex business ownership, managed by my sister and brother-in-law.
Only
two months ago we lost our daughter, adopted into and part of our family ever
since she was gifted to us, a six-week old bundle of joy some 51 years ago. She
has been a part of literally everything each time we visited this place, grandma and
grandpa’s farm, loving and being loved by all and everything that happened
here. This was one of the happiest places in her life. My wife and I have just
returned from a trip up North to visit the place where she was born.
Earth shaking, but really earth-shaking for us only. The Metis community of Ile-a-la-Crosse has history, old, really old, even before us colonialists came along (even before Canada)! In the village of Adrianne's birth we saw teen-agers and middle and older ones - even some grandmas - probably living life similar to her young mother. She was child of a teenager. Whether she would have benefited from a trip up there we do not know, but we are delighted to have visited the place of her birth. It’s helped us somehow in the grief journey. Grieving goes through its stages, as I have known for years. At this moment Verna and I are comforted to celebrate those many years before the addiction got to her, and grateful for the love and supportiveness of Bible school and church and family friends in this last while.
Life is going on as before. Even with a new emptiness, at this time it is the trees and the farmyards and the villages - exactly what we need. Rest in peace dear daughter!