Tuesday, October 15, 2024

Of Guests and Hospitality

Yesterday's thanksgiving dinner was on our table at full splendor. Fascinating, even an hour after the guests left, my wife and I were talking, not about the food, but enthusing about the guests. We had so much enjoyed them. Half of our children were here, the other half replaced by very dear friends, also happy for an occasion like this which brought us together. And of course we were grateful that our sons in other provinces were present in spirit. Hearts and table were full!

Decorations were minimal; only one cheery candle at mid-table surrounded by fixings and condiments - and the turkey itself. If I listed the gravies, the veggies, the cranberries and salads this post would become inaccurate and inadequate -  because Verna or one of our daughters would read it and promptly add this and this and this detail to my incomplete list!

Guests and food are strangely intermingled when it comes to occasions like thanksgiving dinners, part and parcel of the same thing. I remember Verna the day before, not worriedly at all, but already in thanksgiving mode, telling me a few things, a few interesting things to take into consideration. You see, one of our guests is on a certain diet which forbids (this and that, I can't remember), and another is gluten-free, so she will fine tune the stuffing to make it acceptable for her, and her other friend doesn’t particularly like this, so she will adjust the recipe there. And of course a regular consideration; one of our daughters is lactose intolerant. No problem, we're getting ready for thanksgiving! Oh, and no alcohol!

The meal was incredible, everybody said so among all the chatter. And also, we did not particularly mention any of these dietary constraints at mealtime. In fact, we sang a table grace with all of us almost on pitch, totally grateful to God.

This year’s thanksgiving seems to have a lesson for us, especially me. A considerable effort is being made in our neighborhood - and perhaps the whole city - “to be thankful” without strings attached. As most of the readers of these blogposts know, I write with a bit of cynicism – my preference for interesting rather than nice. I enjoy “saying it as I sees it” and people keep reading, perhaps out of indulgence. So with this inclination I could now go into a paragraph or two about all these dietary constraints not only at our table but everywhere – grocery stores and restaurants bending backwards and forwards to meet all these requirements by the almighty customer. “Bah humbug, this is yet another face of our entitled society” says this interesting writer. It is flavor favorites medically endorsed, all contributing to imaginary economies with countries at war and a world going hungry. That may be entertaining, a bit overstated and also very old, reminiscent of Scrooge back there, and also an occasional speech from our dad when we were being picky at the dinner table.

Thanksgiving. Perhaps plain old thanksgiving with food and people and the sheer privilege of being together, that is reason enough – at least as effective as all the ‘interesting’ speeches we make to help us be responsible or guilty. To err on the side of celebration, that is the genuine fare from my wife, my life partner, who loves nothing better than to have friends and children and grandchildren all around, and to cook and accommodate to the very best of her ability. “Welcome to our table,” she says. And then the most important people of our life keep on showing up. 

We always thank God for all of you and continually mention you in our prayers. 

1 Thessalonians 1:2

Tuesday, October 8, 2024

The Day

Every year on this day I go into a sentimental repose. I remember October 5, 1980 as though it was yesterday, a worship service in a rented facility in the northeast quadrant of Edmonton, Alberta. It was a Sunday afternoon, a special service with Conference Minister Rev David Braun (Rest in Peace) and dignitaries from Conference of Mennonites in Alberta (now Mennonite Church Alberta), guest speaker Rev Menno Epp (R.I.P.), Calgary, and send-off blessing by Rev Gary Harder (R.I.P.), pastor of the sponsoring congregation. The auditorium of Parkdale Elementary Junior High was filled with friends and relatives. Thirty-five persons signed on that day as charter members of Faith Mennonite Church, 25 by transfer from our mothering congregation, First Mennonite of Edmonton, and 10 by transfer from several other churches where they originated from. It was a day of celebration after a year of meetings and prayers and task groups. A “Committee for Church Extension” had been appointed by First Mennonite alongside my call to come to Edmonton to assist in an identified task, the birthing of a new congregation.

What memories. The spirit of that birth day cannot be contained by that one Sunday afternoon. My memory bank continues on immediately into the first weeks and months of life in that new church made up of young families, some older faith-filled cheerleaders, and a group of young adults somewhat self-directed making their presence known in so many ways, including the church fastball team (won a city-wide church league championship one year). [1982?]

One early problem still brings a smile to my face. We had committed to an organizational structure as required in order to become a registered assembly. A decision-making council was needed, and we agreed it would have six identified tasks. We asked for six volunteers; we got seven! So we cheerfully rebranded it a Council of Seven, with one member assigned “minister without portfolio.” Needless to say the forthcoming Council meetings and subsequent congregational meetings were full of laughter, some very capable members putting their energy to very productive church life.

Was it all fun and games? Not at all. It was also fun and work. Sunday morning worship services included a slate of rotating worship leaders, some already experienced in previous church life and others brand new at so noble a task, and of course I was the preacher most of the time! Every week I would meet in-person with the designated worship leader (none of this online email stuff) to plan upcoming Sunday service. It was considered a holy time, that preparatory teamwork always evident come Sunday morning. 

Another special blessing was the congregation’s provision of volunteer secretarial help. Secretary work was not a job; it was a volunteer opportunity. What a pleasure it was over the course of ten years to work with skilled persons who took pleasure providing communication which excelled in detail and spirit. For several years this secretary position also double-dutied as a call center to facilitate our church’s participation in a new Edmonton Food Bank getting started at that time.

Another fun work project comes to mind. We liked to think of ourselves as “the church that could” so one time we built a “House in a Weekend.” Five years into the life of this church we had purchased a building from another church. Rather than endless mortgage morsels it was decided to pay it off in one fell swoop! Us being blessed with several contractors, a building plan was laid out in bite-sized pieces and together with connections of our congregational chair who happened to be a land developer, everybody got busy securing donations for publicity, materials, services, etc. etc. lining up volunteers to help with successive stages of the build. Businesses, neighbors, and supporters from far and wide helped us to do it. I still remember Rev Braun, our beloved Conference Minister, coming up from Lethbridge for opening prayer 5:00 a.m. that Friday.

At the heart of the fun-work was the gift of our deacons. This being a church with young adults, some with interesting non-church connections, we had some interesting weddings. I still give thanks in the depth of my heart for the help of these deacons, mature Christians recognized and chosen for their important role as per Acts 6 and 1 Timothy 3. All marriage requests were met with my proviso that I would check with the deacons. I would explain that my service was on behalf of this congregation, and the deacons’ participation was needed in order for it to be properly announced and also the invite for them to continue in the church’s life. The deacons also understood my request that they be invited to the wedding even if they were not well known to the other wedding guests.

Then there were a few Silent Retreats. Thanks to the vision of one of our deacons who had become acquainted with the ministry of Church of the Savior in Washington, DC, [i] we became interested in the inner journey, especially important if our busyness was to continue in a meaningful manner. Urban life can become so hectic that it made sense to find some quiet especially for those in leadership. What a gift it was to me as pastor to receive this ministry from the deacons. I attended several retreats, learning a gift of listening and silence along with several other leaders in our otherwise lively bouncy congregation. Here I learned to relax among the pressures and sometimes 'inner obligations' of different preferences and personalities in the congregation. If leaders cannot “be still and know” (Psalm 46:10) how else can a God-anointed message be learned? Sermons can come out of silence much easier than slavish study and analysis, often enabling good Holy Spirit connection with the people, including some old fashioned gospel prods, rather than too much academia. I was helped to walk my spiritual journey along with the congregation and they with me.

The journey, the journey. Many years have elapsed. Now in retirement, in these last several years I have become involved with an Interfaith Council in this city of Calgary (yes quite worldly, a council which includes people of many differing faith traditions); and very recently also an ironic opportunity to become acquainted with some of my people from way back there well before the 1980's (definitely anti-worldly). Old Colony Mennonites, always opponents of new-fangled ideas and education and even historic opposition to comforts like rubber tires on their farm equipment 😞. Many of them recently have arrived back in Canada, landing in the welcoming province of Alberta, probably because of their enterprising hard-work reputation. So with large families they now contribute to the robust economy of this province. Meanwhile many of them are also encountering new understandings in their faith journey, meaning there are at least six denominational groupings among these 60,000 or so immigrants. [ii] Mennonites historically also not immune to denominational splits, a common feature of all faith traditions! 

This provides considerable reflective material for me (my thinker again)! Although my parents were Old Colony, they did not participate in their church's opposition to public education. They encouraged it! The message to us kids was "if we were interested, then we should go to school." Like most large families, there were different responses to this among my siblings. As a typical oldest child, I grabbed it, off to high school and then chased my dreams in Bible School (also found my wife there 😏), then University and Seminary. So outwardly this might suggest a parting of the ways. Not at all. I have always been a theological thinker, probably why I got called into pastoral ministry at too young an age. The conversations, the non-conversations, and some disagreements are still in our large family of teachers, truckers, farmers, social workers, activists, business owners, mechanics, and one preacher! Now in retirement I have suddenly been provided with opportunities for good conversations and friendship among many others of this background, people also on their continuing journey. The children and grandchildren of those early resistors are back in Canada, making a considerable contribution to my spiritual growth, especially after most of my adult lifetime spent in the cities. Interfaith and my dear Old Colony, two ends of my faith continuum. Interfaith is new, very refreshing and essential in today's world; and the Old Colony pilgrims, very tested and also important in these days of mental and physical diaspora.

My latest blogpost [iii] about coronavirus and lingering issues is more philosophical than these sentimental memories. It concludes, however, with a sentence which is a truth for all times and seasons - and writing styles. Last sentence of that post, Bring it back to the Savior who was there before Covid, and still is.” That Savior has been with us, very present there in the beginnings of that church in the 1980s, and very present among the old and the new right here in 2024. Good reminder: when offering wise sayings and opinions on all things, I must make sure the tongue moves only after the appropriate silence.


[i] Elizabeth O’Connor, Journey Inward, Journey Outward (New York: Harper and Row, 1968).

[ii] Estimate provided by Abe Janzen, Alberta Representative for the Canadian Foodgrains Bank. He identifies six church groups among the Low German immigrants: Old Colony, Sommerfelder; Bergthaler, Reinlander, EMMC, and Kleine Gemeinde.

[iii] Jacob Froese, “Seeing and Looking,” https://jcfroomthoughts.blogspot.com. September 22, 2024.